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Monday, 30 May 2016

Update... Things have changed...

I have been pretty absent recently.. noticing that my last blog post was christmas time/related!! 

The reasoning for this, is that it has been my last semester (ever) at University! I have now officially left.. not officially graduated as I don't know my grades yet.. and knowing my tutors I won't know them for a good few months.
Since you have last heard from me, a few things have changed in my life;

- I have been to get help for my Social Anxiety which means I am now on Anti-Depressants
- I have met someone very special.. I say met - we have known each other for 5 years now and I have probably been in love with him that whole time!
- Me and my boyfriend have decided to move in together so we have started the new chapter of our lives and are looking for places/starting to collect for new home together!
- As stated above, I have finished University.
- I have started to expand my own business (dressmaking) and jump into the deep end of reaching into the bridal market.
- As a new branch of my business I have been creating 'Ready To Wear' collections, un-bridal related.


However, what I am getting at is that I now have a lot more time to dedicate to my blog! 
It has never been a blog that has been updated weekly and I don't intend for it to be like that as I want to write about things I do/am passionate in, I don't want to end up writing anything just because I promise an 'every Sunday post' etc.
Moaning aside.. I am excited to get back on track with it and discuss what I have been up to and share my creative side with you all.



SPEAK SOON! 
x

Wednesday, 27 May 2015

Lazy Garden Days

There is nothing I love more than feeling the super hot sun on my skin whilst playing with my beloved dogs!
I have two dogs - two jack russells. The girl is called Jessie - who is amazingly the SAME age as me! 20 years old! So I have never known life without her.. she can be a grumpy old woman sometimes but she is incredibly loving and wants nothing more than a snuggle on the sofa!
The boy is called max - who is 8 years old! He is a GORGEOUS little boy who acts more like a human than a dog! He is very very clever and can sniff out his beloved tennis ball even if they are in a bag, unopened, in the green house, behind a box, on top of the roof!!! He is so clever haha! He keeps everyone entertained by pushing them a ball to throw.. if he hasn't got a ball, he'll use a stone, if he hasn't got a stone, he'll use a piece of rubbish! He loves lying on my bed sitting on my tummy for a cuddle!

I thought I would share what my sunny garden days look like with only my dogs for company! I love these days .. getting my shorts on, getting the picnic blanket out and lazying around on the grass!








Monday, 2 March 2015

Spring is Coming!


Spring is coming!! 
Wasnt Christmas literally yesterday though?... BUT
March is finally here.. thankgod as I am soo sick of wearing layers of boring winter clothes!! You dont seem to find fun, colourful winter clothes anywhere!!

This month, I am determined to do memory making things!! It seems odd as I have chosen a weird month as Uni is still making its presence and all my friends are still at uni (I chose not to move away) BUT like I said IN am so bored with all this staying in malarkey that comes with winter I want to get out the house and do something fun!.. but not going to lie, the bright sunshine today has made this decision for me as it has made me think its summer (then I went out in a summer top and froze on the spot!!) 
But anyway!!
Already this month, I am going to Manchester with Uni on Wednesday to visit a bridal exhibition which is rare to find really so I am super excited about that! 

In the Easter holidays, which just clash over March/April for me this year, I am going to Alton Towers with my boyfriend! My mum brought us tickets for an Christmas present which was a good idea as we can never afford to do things like that nowadays!!

MOST EXCITEDLY.. on the 31st of March, I am going to see MCBUSTED!!!!! Which i am soooo thrilled about but will keep this short as I can go onnnnn and ooon about my love for them!! But I have always loved Busted but a few years ago when i was still in school so about 5 years ago my friends mum played the CD in the car back from gymnastics and i was hooked on all their stuff I hadnt heard of before! So since then I have listened religiously! 
So then when they announced their tour with Mcfly I was over the moon! Im not a huge fan of Mcfly, I like their stuff but I wouldnt pay to see them but I think they are all so so nice, especially Dougie... and Tom's wedding speech won me over too!! I couldnt go last year as I literally had noone to go with!  :( and didnt think they would tour again but i am so so soooo ecstatic to finally see them (i never saw busted live) and very happy to share such a wonderful memory with my gorgeous best friends!! I really hope they stay together forever now as they all seem so so happy to be playing again after their shock split! (especially James! he is just so lovely) Be sure to look out for a blogpost around then too haha! 

Whats everyone elses plans for March? x 


Monday, 1 December 2014

Bad break ups: How to deal with a broken heart

Talking from past, most terrible experience, I would like to try and help anyone, boy or girl, going through a bad break up.

The two break ups I have ever had have been horrendous, to the point of depression. They made me terrified of getting into another relationship which is pretty scary.
This is the advice I would given my 'past self' from my experiences.

1. In the first initial stage, have your daily moments of tears, listening to sad songs and feeling sorry for yourself. Allow only 30 minutes a day for this, then pick yourself up, and concentrate on something else like a film/school work etc.

2. Find good break up songs to dwell on and sing til your hearts content. (The Script/Taylor Swift is good for relate able lyrics and of course Adele) They strangely bring you comfort knowing someone out there is feeling or has felt the same.

3. Go out and get some exercise!! Go for a run, join the gym or even walk your dogs! Exercise makes you feel good and releases endorphins and it helps you get back into shape looking your best to show off to your ex what they are missing!

4. Get your hair done! Even if your happy with your hair, have it trimmed, highlighted, cut etc! It makes you feel like you've had a brand new fresh start and you can take on anything! It feels you with confidence!

5. Dedicate a few nights a week to 'pamper nights'. Have a bubble bath, stick a film on, do your tan, paint your nails! It takes your mind off everything and concentrates it YOU! You also feel fab about yourself after!

6. Delete your social media apps. Or if you cant live without them, delete THEM! It wont do you ANY good constantly having their - no doubt happy - posts constantly being streamed into your timeline. Its unhealthy and the first step to being in control is to delete them! Be strong and just do it! 

7. If its the type of break up I had.. where you have broken up but your still texting and begging for them back etc.. DONT. Do NOT reply. They want the best of both worlds, they want you to beg and flatter them and love the attention they have off you because they are nasty people but they dont actually want you. They want the single life with you to fall back on!! DONT REPLY.
You are in control and that will drive them CRAZY. It will also toughen you up.

8. Talk to friends/family. You wont actually notice but your friends will know exactly whats going on even if you dont tell them. I have had countless teary dinners out with my girls when they have told me they are worried and talk about it between themselves. This made me realise how much they actually care.

9. Start something new, perhaps a blog or a diary to be able to get your thoughts down and youll see how much you improve when you look back on pages from weeks in the past. 

10. Do not feel like theres no place for you without this person. After they treat you so bad etc who would want to be with them anyway?! You certainly dont. 
You deserve someone much nicer and appreciates every part of you. I know this is easier to say than do but I have been there.

11. Do not feel like your alone. I bet most people have had at least one bad break up in their life. Just think - this may be your first and last!! 
If you ever need to talk to someone to lift your thoughts off your chest I am here :) I am only a email/tweet (@Sophiealizaa) away!!
xx

Saturday, 29 November 2014

Dandruff: The taboo subject

I have been wanting to write this for a while now, but not knowing where to start. As I have 3 deadlines on monday and with barely any work to present, this is the perfect time..!!

When someone says the word dandruff, like everyone else I would scrunch up my nose and shake the conversation off pretty quickly. It is associated with dirty smelly people who don't wash their hair. 

However, ever since last year, when a close family friend died and i was under a lot of stress in a horrible job (see blog post "Clintons is shit") I noticed a very small flaky patch on my scalp at the very front, in my parting. I used to try and scratch it out but then the flakes would get stuck in my hair and I could never get them out! Even in shower! The water would just cause them to stick to my hair.
Just as the stress was clearing up and I had left my job, we had our shower fixed but the plumber had fixed the shower on boiling!!! The hot was the colder side of boiling and the cold was SCOLDING! 

Mum being mum (any mum can take on any heat) doesnt realise how hot, to a normal person, the water is!! The patch started to grow and grow and around then I read an article about dandruff and how hot hot hot water can dry your scalp out, therefore create dry, flaky skin. 

I used special shampoo like Head and Shoulders but that just made it 100x times worse!! Which surprised me, it also made my hair AWFUL. Greasy and terribly frizzy and knotty. 

Its gotten so bad that even if my hair line itches I have to tap it as if I even press my nail into the skin, it spilts the top layer of skin and bleeds or just causes lots of flakes!!

So basically, the moral of the story is, dandruff happens to EVERYONE and the cleanest of people may have it and the dirtest people may not.. Also, use a luke warm shower!!

If anyone knows any good brands for dandruff please let me know!! I am dying to try anything and everything! 
X

Wednesday, 5 November 2014

Bonfire Night!


I took my poorly Grandma out to a local church bonfire night and it was fabulous!
There was no charge (amazingly) and there was drinks, and free cones of chips and cups of gorgeous homemade spicy pumpkin soup - which is my NEW FAVE!!

The chips! (sorry its blurry I was walking at the same time)
The bonfire!

And the fab fireworks!! It was so lovely to put this on for the community for free!!

I hope everyone else has a lovely bonfire night! :) 
Comment below with what you have planned!
xx



Thursday, 23 October 2014

Sisterhood of the world bloggers award!

                                         
Rules:
1. Thank the blogger who nominated you, linking back to their site,
2. Include the Award logo on your own blog,
3. Answer their 10 questions,
4. Make up 10 new questions for the bloggers you nominate,
5. Nominate 10 bloggers to do the award

After reading Lauren Morgan's blogpost, I have been nominated to do this Sisterhood of the world bloggers award! 


1.  Whats your favourite lipstick?
My favourite lippy has got to be - GOSH in 154 - I dont usually wear lippy but when I do its normally on uni days etc so I tend to keep it neutral. This colour is a deep deep scarlet red. It's very halloween but still suitable all year round. It also makes your teeth look super white which is always a winner eep!!
2. Whats your favourite animal and are you an animal lover?
I am a MASSIVE animal lover! Only really house hold pets/farm animals etc rather than snakes and spiders but still love all animals and just cant understand when people put them into rescue centres/ or abandon them :( 
I have two jack russell dogs, Jessie and Max. They are my lovely babies!!  We get Jessie from a rescue centre and she was awfully abused and I just cant bare to think about it when I look at her sad, lovely face! :(
                                       3. Whats your favourite style of sunglasses?
Sunglasses dont really suit me at all to be honest. I dont even wear them much on holiday but if I had to choose it would be the Ray Ban style!
4. If you could go anywhere in the world where would it be?
If I could go anywhere in the world it would probably be back to Disney Land Florida. I went with my family and another close family when I was about 8. We are all 20+ now and we still always rave on about it whenever we are altogether - begging our parents to take us back!! Its just magical.
5. If you had to pick an actress/actor to play your life who would you pick to play you?
Not because I feel they represent me, my life, or my looks haha but if I take it in a way of who is my favourite actress it would have to be either Sarah Jessica Parker for the glamour, or Kate Hudson/Jennifer Garner for a romantic comedy haha!
6. Whats your favourite tv program
I watch a lot of TV, so I have a lot haha! But I love, Hollyoaks, Made in Chelsea, The only way is Essex, Keeping up with the Kardashians, Dont tell the bride and anything else thats abit of rubbish really!!
7. Favourite food?
My favourite food is anything with chips really haha! I am a extremely fussy eater! to my mums despair! 
8. Whats your dream job?
I am currently studying Bridal wear at University, in my 2nd year! So anything to do with weddings really. I am obsessed with everything to do with them! Ideally I would love to own my own barn converted studio selling gorgeous boho wedding dresses. But thats probably a far away dream!
9. whats your  Favourite scent (perfume)?
I have a few faves. I love Christina Aguilera's first perfume with the lacy bottle. Nina Ricci's first perfume. Kate Moss' first and all of Vera Wang's.
10. Have you got any hidden talents?
I sadly have no hidden talents :( I am that girl who watches a Disney film about a girl who cant Ice skate then becomes amazing (Ive forgot what its called) and then I spend the next few hours looking at where  I can learn to figure skate etc haha! I used to do gymnastics which I did for 8 years. But Ive now lost all my flexibility! 







I dont really have any blogging friends haha so nominate yourself if you're reading this :) 
Dont forget to tag me!
Here are my questions; 
1. What is your dream job?
2. What is your favourite all time song?
3.Whats your favourite film?
4. Who is your celeb crush?
5. What is your favourite 'go to' outfit and why?
6. What is your favourite memory of this year and why?
7. If you won the lottery what would you do with it?
8. Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
9. If you had to have a career change what path would you go down? or Study 
10. What do you hope to achieve in 2015?
:) have fun

Friday, 9 May 2014

Clinton's is shit.

I am tired.
 I have a million things to do for all my deadlines next week, yet I am sat here watching sex and the city, wanting to write, needing a nap and a good moan.
My chosen subject? My old job at Clinton's Cards in Stafford.
I walked past earlier today hoping to see some old friends, as I am luckily still friends with some of my old work friends who, some, happen to be the mum's of my primary school friends. Yet I was met with the sight of my old manager at the till looking miserable as sin as always.
She should be the one to know yet looking straight faced behind the till is the number 1 rule of what NOT to do when you work for Clintons. As she used to tell me many times that even when no one is entering the shop/in the shop or even just walking past you have to have a fixed, false smile at ALL times! Even if it meant smiling to yourself - which is perfectly normal..
No, this wasn't the Victoria Beckham department in Selfridges, this was a poor Card shop in a small town.
Working at Clintons was my first ever job, I had spent a good year and a half trying to find a job after a really awful year I had had. My confidence and self esteem was already extremely low, to the point where I couldn't pay for anything myself and would always make my friends do it. My best friend worked at Clintons and told me to bring a CV in, which I did and it went from there, I had a good interview and had secured my first ever job!
I was very nervous as Clintons is in the middle of town and I didn't have any confidence. On my first day, a busy September Saturday, I was given only 5 minutes on the till before being let loose on my own which was sooo scary as I had never dealt with tills or money before and had made that very clear. I quickly made friends with the other staff who helped me and supported me incredibly, especially Trish and Lynn, the mums of old school friends.
I was contracted to two 4 hour shifts, Saturday and Sunday. This may seem easy, however, I would be put on the till for the whole four hours. With pretty much no one to serve as who on earth wants to buy £6 cards when your next to card factory who do the same cards for 99p?!
You were not allowed to leave the till, there were no chairs, hard floors, no quick loo breaks, no chance to drink, no talking at ALL even when no one is in the shop! No coughing, no yawning.. and when a job is that boring it is sooo hard not to yawn if you cant drink or talk to keep your energy levels up! 4 hours is easy until you have to stand in one spot doing nothing on hard floors.
We had official rules that you couldn't be on the till for the full 4 hours as you couldn't keep the enthusiasm up - which is very very true. But the two managers in Stafford didn't care! As long as they were ok it was fine! They would spend all their days in the office drinking coffee and chatting and one of them, Jacky, constantly having a cigarette outside - which surely isn't in the rules.. Very unprofessional indeed.
Within my first few weeks it was Christmas season. I was on the till from 830 in the morning til 6 at night with only a hour and 20 minutes break. The queue was right to the back of the shop and people were getting frustrated and I had a CL warning pop up on my screen.. however.. putting the customer first like I had been told many times I waited until the queue was abit more manageable until I rung for the manager. I had told another manager on the till I had a CL but she said ring her in a bit. I did and she came and asked me how long it had been on for, I replied with 40 minutes. With a shop full of people and my low confidence what happened next put me off working for life. I was shouted at, at the top of her Cannock voice for leaving the CL on, which meant they were only insured for a certain amount of money and they had to take the extra out. I had never ever been told this at all. I was prodded in the back and exclaimed that this was a sackable offence. I then was back on the till for another 5 hours. I could not speak to anyone I was so shocked what had happened I had tears rolling down my face.
Between shocking offences she had caused, they was constant unprofessional bitching about other staff members when they had done nothing wrong. I would over hear her bitching about me when I had to ask a basic question cause I was given no training and only learnt things by asking or teaching myself, which is very hard when you aren't allowed to get anything wrong.
On one occasion I had a 9.30 start, which I had taken a picture on my phone so I didn't forget. I came in like to normal at about 9.10. I was shouted at for being late as I was meant to start at 9.00 however when I last checked the rota on Sunday night which is the last night I would be in until the following Saturday. I went in and checked the rota and she had changed the rota, knowing I wouldn't see it for 9.00!!! She had stitched me up?! I don't know why she hated me so much? I worked there for a year and never called in sick, I was never late, I did all the upsells (selling stupid pens to £2.50 for cancer with only FIVE % going towards cancer) I always did over time, though she would just put you down out of contract hours and not even ask you but if you would tell her you couldn't do it she would go mad at you.
Clintons in Stafford is a women based shop.. which is very strange when we had at least 20 male CV's with the year I was there. But within the year absolutely no males were hired at all, which doesn't add up, but i'll let you do the maths..
On the last occasion, the last, most disgusting, straw for me, was in October 2013. I had been put down for a full day on the Saturday (not asked again) and had so much work to do for my Uni course which they already knew. I didn't say anything and just went along with it, later in the day I was asked to cover a shift the day after as Lynn, a good friend, was, to the fault of Jacky put down for 12 days in a row and wanted a day off. I at first said no, as I had so much work to do, however it wasn't left there. The two managers came down and cornered me into the wall and pestered me with questions until I gave in. I eventually did, forgetting I had the full day, and I hated them both by this point so I was not going to allow them walk all over me anymore. I went back and said if you put my hours down to normal on the Saturday then I will do the Sunday. Nope this was refused. So I refused to do the Sunday.
The week following this, my full Saturday, I was again, put again on the till for the full day. 5 minutes before my lunch break I was called into the office. The other manager was told to stay. I was shocked on what I had done to deserve two managers in the office with me. I felt like I had stole something. Then, to my disbelief these two inhumane managers came at me like literally dogs, shouting at me that they would never ever do me any favours ever again and blaming my parents for being pushy and thats why I had to do so much work.. Absolutely ridiculous I wanted to do the work to get good grades so I didn't have to spend my life in such a shitty downgrading job!!
I began to get so upset as I could not get a word out, they would continually speak over me in their loud brash Cannock voices and not let me say my point of view. They are both 50+ mothers of two who you would think would actually have a heart and a mother instinct making a 18 year old girl cry. I don't get emotional much but they caused me to have my first ever panic attack. They used all my lunch up and I had to go to the staff room to stuff my lunch down myself in the two minutes I had left. I was then met by Lynn who I told what happened and apologised to her deeply for not being able to cover her shift. I was so shocked and upset that I made her cry with anger.
I was then expected to go back on the till for the rest of my shift and serve customers all happy and smiley. Jacky did not once apologise.
That night I wrote my notice letter and gave it in the next day. Jacky did not once say goodbye to me or write in my goodbye card, which I am glad of as I wont have to look at her name but it annoys me how a 50+ woman, with children, who is meant to be the manager can act so childish. She has since been PROMOTED to Area Manager even after my 8 page complaint letter. The service I have had since then has been absolutely appalling, I know 3 memebers of management have joined and left because of her and wrote in their notice it was because of her yet she still gets a job?!
Clintons is nothing but a money making scheme who actually don't care about any of their customers, despite their policies, and only want their money. Not their custom.
You would think such a high end shop, that they try to be, can let themselves go so down hill because of this manager.. she spoke to the customers very rudely and swore loudly.
This woman does not deserve to have a managing job where she has to deal with the public. She is a heartless inhuman human being. The other sales assistants there are so lovely and they don't deserve to have such a bitch telling them what to do when she sits outside smoking all day anyway! Disgusting!!
I am luckily enough to have an absolutely brilliant job now with a lovely, lovely manager, though this experience has left me scared to ever work in retail again.
p.s ALWAYS double check your cards from Clintons especially if it has jewels, 3D pieces on there, as if it ever fell off, or a strap of a bag came out they would just glue it back on or sellotape it down.. not very good service when your paying £5+ for a product.